Pussy Power Won Me a Trip to Jamaica

I WON a whole retreat to JAMAICA last weekend 🤯.

And when I say it’s cuz of Pussy Power I’m telling the whole truth. Here’s how it went down:

1.SURRENDER:

If y’all been following me on IG or email recently, I’ve been sharing about how these last weeks, I’ve been deeply anchoring into SURRENDER. Actively cleansing scarcity from my body, mind, and spirit while conjuring abundance on a cellular level. All while guiding the members in my membership on a journey of a month of Surrendering to Being.

As a tool, surrender has been extremely important to me on this journey of leveling the fuck up and riding the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany confronting shadows while making BOSS moves and investing in myself and trusting like crazy. Whew! So I’ve been diving into rituals on rituals on rituals and they’ve been deep since my birthday last week. I’ve been devoted to pampering myself next level to support myself through the process and anchor into my power.

Here are some of the rituals I’ve been using to anchor:

Sex Magic

Consulting with my Highest Sensual Self

Embodiment

Womb Meditation

2. Intuition:

So from the moment I saw the flyer for a women in cannabis event called Down the Rabbit Hole, where our resident Pussy Empowered DJ, Moonflower was gonna be spinning, my intuition was fully drawn to go even though my logical mind was low key in scarcity and resisting getting a ticket. I let myself work through the feeling of scarcity by proactively taking time to surrender and listen from that place of connection including on the day of….

3. Sex Magic:

I woke up and chose to start the day in abundance with a breast massage that turned into an embodiment practice that turned into a deeeep sex magic ritual using my pleasure treasure wand, and I was literally moaning the word “Caribbean” at one point. No lie.

4. Living Rapturously:

After the ritual anchoring into abundance, I was like - ummmm, of course I wanna spend the evening at a pool party being blessed by DJ Moonflower and the badass women in the realm of cannabis. That became very obviously the thread of abundance to follow.

I blasted Milkshake and No Doubt and flirted with a couple guys I’m auditioning on text and danced around and got dressed up pinup style cuz I saw there was a contest and I thought -that sounds fun, why not me? I asked my bestie which outfit he liked better and then chose the other one cuz my Pussy and ass was showing more and that is my forever mood.

5. Parade Your Power:

The event was like a DREAM. It felt like a living Barbie dream house with flowers everywhere, neon and pink. All the women were INCREDIBLE-fun, sassy, BOSSES. I was in heaven hanging with everyone, dancing and eating tacos, having deep conversations, and laughing our asses off.

When the contest came around, I was like OMG I'm too high for this and I’m not in performance mode. I just wanna be myself so I just relaxed and did my best to stay fully present and out of my head.

I was asked my inspo behind the outfit during the contest, and upon reflecting on my day leading up to the moment and week before, I said PUSSY POWER of course and flashed my leopard print thong and shook my ass and had so much fun being myself, living in the moment. I got so much love and applause and laughter from all these glowing women. I was like holy shit this is my life rn?! All these dope women showing me love for me being exactly who I am?! Flaunting my sexuality, celebrating my body, living my truth!

When I won by crowd cheers, my brain fell out of my head 🤯. This wasn’t the wink I was asking for, it was a full on orgasm delivered by the universe letting me know I am on my path and in alignment. I was calling in surrender? Well guess what, the universe delivered to me even more surrender to match the vibe I’ve been cultivating within- a whole retreat vacation to the CARIBBEAN like the word spoke out loud during my sex magic practice.

Damn. Pussy Power for the WIN.

Thank you Coral Cove Wellness Resort for this incredible gift! I cannot WAIT!

PS. All the tools I mentioned above, I also share and teach all the time! If you want a taster, consider purchasing my Pussy Empowered Ritual Bundle. If you’re ready to dive in, join us in Pussy Empowered: The Movement Membership Program where dive in with weekly virtual gatherings and there’s a membership site FULL of rituals and tools like my Sex Magic for Abundance Masterclass.

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Live Rapturously

Live Rapturously

Make rapture your North Star and fill your life with play

The Problem

• Centering the Shadow: In the sphere of empowerment, there are many ways in which the shadow and trauma are the primary focus. When we center these part of ourselves without equal or more commitment to joy, we constantly feel like a work in progress and lose sight of the opportunity we have to enjoy our lives

• Settling for Crumbs: In so many ways, society teaches us to settle for crumbs, to not rock the boat and accept mediocrity

• Narratives of Suffering: Many parts of our femininity are mired in vocabulary and expectations of suffering. Such as our monthly “curse” aka menstrual cycle. But there is a world beyond these narrow views of what it means to be a feminine being

The Pussy Empowered Solution

Healing doesn’t have to be all hard work and you don’t have to do it alone

• Blissipline: You will learn to put equal or more focus on how to fill your day and life with pleasure at every opportunity

• Live Rapturously: You will dare to create the life of your dreams rather than letting the cards fall where they may

• Permission: You will learn to play more guiltlessly. And you’ll be held in a community that will celebrate with you, cheer you on, and inspire you

Ready to Live Rapturously?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Live Rapturously

Live Rapturously Podcast Episode

Big Pussy Energy w/ Lizzy Jeff

Parade Your Power

Parade Your Power

Move through the world anchored into your embodied, authentic power while taking up space unapologetically

The Problem

• Shrinking Ourselves: Many of us receive messages and conditioning that it is not safe to move through the world as a woman from a very young age. Thus we make ourselves small so as not to draw attention to ourselves and not stir the water

• Empowerment is not a Theory: Many modalities that teach empowerment are mostly theoretical or compartmentalized. When it comes to implementing this in real time, it can be very hard to put into practical use

• Lack of Safe Space: It is not often that we are in containers where we feel safe to experiment with what feels powerful in our bodies vs what feels performative or inauthentic

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Parade: Power is a practice. You will have opportunities to practice express yourself in the presence of community, where you will learn how to stay present, aware, and enjoying your body even with eyes on you

• Posture: You will learn how to carry yourself so that you feel grounded into your strength and power from deep within, while commanding attention and earning respect with the language of your body

• Boundaries: You will learn to set boundaries and speak your truth by grounding into the wisdom of your body

Ready to Parade Your Power?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Parade Your Power

Wet Ass Pussy Power

Parade Your Power Podcast Episode

Never Forget You're a Bad Bitch

Taking Up Space

Speaking Your Truth

Untame Your Wild Hips

Untame Your Wild Hips

Break free from linear movement and liberate your curves

The Problem

• Holding Shame: Our hips are home to the most sexualized parts of our bodies. Many of us hold shame in this area as we shrink our hips to fit into a linear world that makes us feel uncomfortable for just being in our natural form.

• Right Angles: We constantly put our bodies in right angle chairs which cuts off circulation in our hips, womb, and lower back, causing stiffness that can result in painful misalignment in the present and down the line.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Untame: You’ll learn to activate your hips and enjoy the feeling of life coursing through your hips, ass, womb, reproductive organs

• Reclaim: You' will reclaim the right to inhabit your curves whether or not it’s in a sexual way. Gain confidence and comfort in connection to your hips and their wild nature

• Express: You will explore dances from around the world that center hip movements including belly dance, erotic dance, samba, twerking, and latin dance led by lifelong performer & aficionado, Alyssa Aparicio

• Learn: You will learn about the herstory of these dances from fertility ritual, to performance, to sex work, to social dance

Ready to Untame Your Wild Hips?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Untame Your Wild Hips

Untame Your Wild Hips

Root Chakra Activation w/ DJ Moonflower

Arouse the Sacred Erotic

Arouse the Sacred Erotic

Free your authentic sexuality and root into profound intimacy with your erotic self.

The Problem

• The Double Edged Sword: Our society teaches us that our value is placed on how we express our sexuality— dragging us between the extremes of virgin or whore, villainizing us either way based on puritanical ideals rooted in colonization and Christianity.

• Inadequate Sex Education: In the US and in many places around the world, sex education is extremely limited which has kept us in the dark about the function of our reproductive organs and how to interact with our sexuality in a healthy way.

• External Dependency: We are taught that our sexuality exists only in relation to others and that our fulfillment/satisfaction comes from outside of us, rather than learning how to connect with the nature of our erotic selves whenever we so desire.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Intimacy: You will create a relationship of respect and intimacy with your innate eroticism

• Awareness: You will gain an understanding of your sex organs and how pleasure nourishes your mind, body, and spirit

• Celebration: You will reclaim the joy, bliss, and creativity available to you in connection with your sexual energy.

Ready to Arouse the Sacred Erotic?

Want to better understand what I mean by the “Sacred” in Sacred Erotic?

Check out this video:

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Arouse the Sacred Erotic

Pussy Empowered Podcast Episode: Arouse The Sacred Erotic

Conjure Your Intuitive Womb

Conjure Your Intuitive Womb

Learn to trust yourself and make decisions from the depths of your being.

The Problem

• Overanalyzing: From a young age we are taught that logic & analysis is superior to all else, including our intuitive connection.

• Gaslighting: Many of us have experiences where we are encouraged to mistrust what we know in our depths to be true. We learn to defer out power to others who are considered to know “better” than us including parents, teachers, and doctors.

• Disassociation: Many of us feel deeply disconnected from our womb space due to societal perceptions of sexuality & menstruation, trauma, and shame that resides here.

• Where’s the instruction manual? Likely, no one ever taught you just how to access and operate your intuition. And thus it remains an elusive mystery.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Womb Awareness: You will develop a connection with your womb space from within which will allow you to become deeply in tune with your core.

• Body Wisdom: You will practice connecting to and integrating intuitive wisdom in real time, not just in theory.

• Conviction: You will learn to recognize your truth and decipher when fear, overanalyzing, or the voices of others are trying to interrupt your deeper knowing.

Ready to Conjure Your Intuitive Womb?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Conjure Your Intuitive Womb

Conjure Your Intuitive Womb Podcast Episode

Surrender to Being

Surrender to Being

Anchor into the present, where your true power lives in real time.

The Problem

• Overanalyzing: From a young age we are taught that logic & analysis is superior to all else.

• Overthinking: It’s so easy for us to get so caught up in our heads that the present simply eludes us.

• Worth=Productivity: In a society built on capitalism, we are taught that our worth is wrapped up with how much we can accomplish. We are hooked on doing and have forgotten how to just be.

• Past & Future Tripping: Many of us are fixated on the past or the future, but not equipped to anchor into the NOW.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Sensuality: the senses are a portal to the present. Learning to ground into the senses continually brings us out of our heads and into the moment.

• Presence: Practicing being here and now in our bodies gives us access to our ability to act, respond to our needs/desires, and ground ourselves.

• Embracing Emotions: Instead of ignoring how we feel, we process our emotions and allow our feelings to inform us about what needs our attention internally and externally.

Ready to Surrender to Being?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Surrender to Being:

Surrender to Radiant Calm Ritual

Surrender to Being Pussy Empowered Podcast Episode

Alchemize Your Herstory

ALCHEMIZE YOUR HERSTORY

Develop your self awareness & understand where you are on your personal journey, in relationship with your ancestors, & in the greater context of society past & present.

The Problem

• Many of us blame ourselves for how we interact with the world without stepping back & gaining perspective of the greater context at play and having compassion for where we are on the journey

• The majority of the womxn’s empowerment landscape fails to address how intersectionality ie race, ethnicity, class, gender impacts our relationship to our power and the greater power dynamics at play in society

• Herstory repeats itself when we do not take the time to learn from the past

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Actively reflect on your relationship with your power, with self, and position within the context of society at large

• Acknowledge that you do not exist in a bubble & you are not alone in your experience

• Engage in deeper conversations with individuals from all walks of life and be pro-active in filling in your blind spots

• Learn to make intentional choices that will create the life you wanna live & the world you wanna live in, in real time

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

Ready to Alchemize Your Herstory?

Image: Borinquen Preciosaby Alyssa Aparicio & Talltree aka Flash The Abyss

More resources on Alchemizing Your Herstory:

Demystifying Stripping & Decolonizing Sexual Empowerment

My Commitment to Anti-Racism

Embrace Your Lunar Prowess

Embrace Your Lunar Prowess

Creating an intimate understanding of & relationship with your cyclical nature.

The Problem

• We live in a patriarchal world that sees time as linear and mimics the solar cycle. The expectations of our daily lives mimic the 24 hr hormonal cycle of men which puts unrealistic expectations on the nature of our bodies as individuals who experience menstrual cycles

• The majority of education systems around cycles neglect to teach us about our reproductive systems in any comprehensive way

• Many of us suffer in silence in regards to our relationship with our cycles: from period pain, to pms, to fertility, to shame.

• As a collective we remain in the dark about this aspect of ourselves and others

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Learn how your monthlong menstrual cycle impacts your mind, body, spirit, & emotions

• Engage with cyclical living by integrating what you learn about the ebbs & flows of your cycle into your daily life in a practical way

• Engage w/ ritual, trainings, & conversations that teach you how to understand your body better, validate your body’s wisdom

• Break free from the overarching narrative of suffering & shame attached to your cycle

• Surrender to the flow of your power, rather than swim against the current of your nature

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

Ready to Embrace Your Lunar Prowess?

Image: Full Moon by Alyssa Aparicio & Talltree aka Flash The Abyss

More resources on Embracing Your Lunar Prowess:

2021 Lunar Calendar

What No One Told You About Menstrual Pain

Reading List

Encounter Your Secret Garden

Encounter Your Secret Garden

Creating an intimate understanding & awareness of your physical Pussy

The Problem

• Most of us are raised with inadequate education around our reproductive system

• Subsequently, many of us don’t know how to locate, care for, interact with, or even name these mysterious part of our bodies. What goes unnamed, goes mis-understood

• Many spaces devoted to womxn’s empowerment speak about Pussy as an intangible, elusive idea, rather than a physical, tangible place on our bodies.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

There’s nothing woo woo about Pussy Power.

Here’s how you will be empowered in your relationship with your physical, tangible Pussy via The Pussy Empowered approach:

• Acquaint yourself with your reproductive system by learning proper names and functions for your anatomy ie cervix, uterus, vagina, clitoris, ovaries, & more

• Enhance your proprioceptive & interoceptive awareness of your Pussy - meaning, the somatic awareness of these parts of your body, and learning to hear the messages these parts of your body are communicating to you ( just as your stomach let you know when you are hungry, or your eyes let you know when you are tired, your Pussy has much to share with you)

• Engage w/ ritual, trainings, & conversations that teach you how to connect with your own anatomy intimately and anchor into your bodily connection, wisdom, & pleasure.

• Give your Pussy the respect, dignity, & love it deserves by creating intimacy with this part of your body

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

Ready to Empower Your Pussy?

Image: Altar I by Alyssa Aparicio & Talltree aka Flash The Abyss