Surrender to Being

Sensuality is Such A Potent Medicine /  by alyssa aparicio

Is 2024 the year you anchor into your sensuality and let it fill your cup?


Join us in a community devoted to just that. Here’s what’s on the horizon ✨

✨PUERTO RICO Retreat: Unleash Your Inner Video Vixen February 5-10th. 1 spot left on site, 3 spots for local residents! Learn More

✨LA P💎ssy Empowered Performance Class: Our 5th round begins on March 29th (10 weeks) and culminates in a performance at the next P💎ssy Empowered Party in June. Now open for enrollment with Early Bird Discount. Learn More

✨ VIRTUAL: Erotic & Alive Virtual Membership is chock full of rituals, resources, courses and monthly live classes. Join us for anytime! The next class: Jan. 16th. Learn More

Other places on the horizon: Bay Area & San Diego in spring. Where else should we rendezvous? 😍

📸: Cover photo by @fempwrboudoir, video self-filmed on set.
🎶: current favorite artist @thesundropgarden

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Surrender to Receive Your Dreams /  by alyssa aparicio

Have you ever brought a big juicy dream to life, only to feel a major contraction afterwards? OR have you noticed that the contractions are strong as you are bringing a dream to life?

In some cases its immediate, in others there may be a lag, but any matter what, it can be a very frustrating experience.

Photographed by @gabrielasvision at Pussy Empowered Party

Let’s call this the process of contraction and expansion. It can happen anytime, after a creative project coming to fruition, a fun sexual encounter, career goal met, dream brought to life. It can happen during the expansion itself.

The exact feeling varies. Maybe its fear, despair, grief, shame, numbness. Overall, its a contrast from the elation or excitement of experiencing a success or bringing a dream to life.

I believe it happens for a number of reasons, but the main one that I have come to realize can be summarized as upper limiting, a term coined by Gay Hendricks that is outlined in his eye opening book, “The Big Leap”. (This is a book that I’ve re-visited many times and have been recommended in spiritual spaces and business coaching spaces alike.)

To summarize, the concept of upper limiting is something that occurs when things are going well in our lives. It can have many triggers, but the more we become aware of its presence and these triggers, the more we can recognize upper limiting as it arises.

Why? On reason is that it is a result of habitual mental and emotional patterns that we have reinforced over our lifetime. Practiced ways of thinking and being that your mind, body, and spirit have grown accustomed to over the years, thus reinforcing neural pathways over time. These are ways that our brains and bodies feel at home in a certain way of being.

When we experience a meteoric or sometimes even gentle rise in our joy, positivity, pride, accomplishment these commonly reinforced ways of being attempt to stabilize once again, often sabotaging the uplifting feelings.

It can also be understood as the shadow side of the success.

For example, in this weekend’s Virtual Retreat: Brave, Badass New Year, we identified our biggest struggles and also our greatest celebrations of 2022. Afterwards, we reflected on the relationship between these two elements.

For me personally, 2022 was a year of major ACTION- I brought so many dreams to life including producing and performing in 4 Pussy Empowered Parties, leading 3 Pussy Empowered Performance 10 week classes, expanding my solo burlesque performance career, writing, recording, & performing my first song, moving out of my home in Topanga and arriving in the Caribbean commencing a period of travel I’ve always dreamed of, amongst other accomplishments. (Yes, I’m flexing!! Its a good muscle to strengthen- you should practice sometime!)

But I also want to illustrate my point, amidst all of this excitement and up-leveling, I began experiencing major anxiety reminiscent of my youth. Anxiety runs in my family and its something that I experienced on the daily growing up. I have had a long journey of learning to calm my nervous system and find true, regular grounding. This process has gifted me a more common state of calm and stability compared to how my internal realm used to feel like on the regular.

Still, at times where I push myself out of my comfort zone, when I’m triggered fear, making big life changes, when I fall off my daily rituals, when I have too much sugar or coffee, and sometimes for no identifiable reason, I experience flare ups.

This fall, I experienced an extended flare up. A contraction to all of the expansion I was experiencing as my mind, body and spirit tried to catch up with all the growth. This anxiety was an aspect of all the action that was being activated. It made sense when I became aware of this this relationship between the expansion and contraction I was experiencing simultaneously.

So, yes, often, the expansion and contraction is happening in conjunction. I like to use waves as a metaphor- that ebb and flow is something we must learn how to surf, to stabilize ourselves amidst it all. Because these waves are inevitable.I don’t foresee that we ever truly reach a point in life where we don’t experience these waves to some extent. However, we CAN get to know our patterns, strengthen the practices that help us stay centered as we continue to rise.

How do we do that? How can we best ground and support ourselves along the way? Here are my tried and true Pussy Empowered solutions to practice before, during, and after our dreams come true. These solutions can be used in the midst of a contraction flare up, and/or ideally daily as a way to continue staying present and processing along every moment of your journey.

Pussy Empowered Solutions:

1.Surrender

Affirmation: I surrender to the life of my dreams

Surrender is the foundation of my Pussy Empowered™ Framework because it anchors us into the present. And the present is where our power truly lies.

Using our senses, aka sensuality, we can access this moment and move from the chatter of our mind down into the reality of our bodies. Meeting our bodies in the moment is a way to remember that the earth’s gravity is still holding us, that our breath is still fueling us, that likely in the now moment we are safe. These practices allow our nervous system to really feel that.

I have found that having a daily method to access surrender is critical when working with feelings of worthiness, enoughness, anxiety, and during times of elation. Here’s how you can incorporate surrender into your routine:

Action step:

Create a daily ritual that invokes the blissful feeling of surrender in your mind body and spirit:

Some suggestions:

  • Nature: Spend time in nature

  • Earthing: Put your feet directly on the earth

  • Breathe: Take deep, intentional breaths

  • Touch yourself: let your hands graze across your skin and get present to the sensation while reminding yourself that you are safe in your own hands.

  • Embodiment: Create a playlist for surrender or use this one and use it to get into your body


    Resources:

1.Download my Surrender to Radiant Calm Ritual, a guided daily grounding ritual, taken from my own personal daily practice, filmed on the beach on a breathtaking beach in Puerto Rico. Download here.

2. Listen to my Pussy Empowered Podcast episode, Surrender to Being, to explore this theme more. Listen here.

3.Listen to my Pussy Empowered Playlist: Surrender to Being. Listen here

2. Alchemize

Affirmation: I love myself in this moment, just as I am.

Alchemy is a necessary tool for staying present amidst the waves of life. This is an invitation to continually digest and reflect on your experiences. It is a practice of meeting yourself exactly where you are, as you are, again and again. Embedding methods for alchemizing emotions and experiences into your everyday can help nip prolonged experiences of contraction in the bud.

Action step:

Create a daily ritual that allows you to alchemize whatever emotions or experiences are present for you:

Some suggestions:

  • Dance: put on music that matches the mood you’re in and dance with/through whatever comes forward. Laugh, cry, roll on the ground- whatever feels the most true. You can change the music to match your mood as you go along. Try setting an allotted time for dance daily or allow a less limited time for when you can feel a need to go deeper.

  • Vocal Activation: feel into your body. Where is this emotion, sensation most alive? Take a deep breath into this space and on your exhale, make sound with your voice to mirror this feeling. Do this as many times as you are called to. Try doing it for a period of 5,1 0, 20 minutes and watch how things shift

  • Journal: Free write without judgment. Allow your hand to move across the page and spill everything that is on your heart and mind. “If I get it all down on paper, it's no longer inside of me threatening the life it belongs to” - “2am” Anna Nalick

    Resources:

1.Download this Alchemize your 2022 PLAYsheet to reflect on 2022 or for what the process of alchemy can look like. Download here.

2. Read this blog post on the Pussy Empowered element: Alchemize Your Herstory


3. Explore these Pussy Empowered PLAYlists designed for feeling and moving through different moods and states of being. Listen here..

3.CELEBRATE

Affirmation: I am so proud of myself!

Yes, celebrate! Set aside quality time to revel and bask in your accomplishments. Even the teeny tiny ones. Getting in a habit of celebrating reinforces the neural pathways in your brain associated with self love, joy, self esteem, gratitude. This is an integral part of creating/living the life of your dreams because without out it, we are simply on an endless ladder seeking accomplishment after accomplishment. When really the reason we seek to accomplish anything is because we “think we’ll feel better in the having of it” as Abraham Hicks says. Taking time to appreciate and acknowledge your wins from small to large gives you the fuel to keep going and the recognition you deserve along the way.

Action step:

Create a daily ritual that invokes the feeling of celebration.

Some suggestions:

  • Dance": yes, dance is a suggested step in each category because it really works, its free, powerful and it can never be too much! Try blasting this Pussy Empowered PLAYlist: Live Rapturously

  • Say it out loud- proclaim, brag, express appreciation out loud to let yourself hear how badass you are. It feels so good to say “I really did that shit!” and let this truth resonate in your body. This practice is amplified when you allow someone else that you trust to be able to hold your joy, to witness you.

  • Bask: set aside time just to bask. That means clear your to do list for part or all of a day after an expansive experience to just be. Be a body, listen to music, stare, take a bath, eat well, order in or eat out etc.

    Resources:

1.Listen to this Pussy Empowered podcast episode: Live Rapturously


2. Listen to this PLAYlist to invoke rapture in your spirit. Listen here.

What to avoid:

  • Interacting and attempting be acknowledged & celebrated with people who tend to be debbie downers, tend to be jealous, or take joy in raining on your parade.

  • Overscheduling yourself or filling your day with tasks or experiences that tend to bring you down directly after an expansive experience.

  • Try not to be hard on yourself. That is, focus more on your wins than what could have been done better. Things could always be done better but thats not a good reason to be mean to yourself!

  • Numbing out with things that tend to have a negative effect on your mind, body, spirit afterwards

PS. Are you interested in 1:1 Pussy Empowered Coaching?

Pussy Power Won Me a Trip to Jamaica /  by alyssa aparicio

I WON a whole retreat to JAMAICA last weekend 🤯.

And when I say it’s cuz of Pussy Power I’m telling the whole truth. Here’s how it went down:

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1.SURRENDER:

If y’all been following me on IG or email recently, I’ve been sharing about how these last weeks, I’ve been deeply anchoring into SURRENDER. Actively cleansing scarcity from my body, mind, and spirit while conjuring abundance on a cellular level. All while guiding the members in my membership on a journey of a month of Surrendering to Being.

As a tool, surrender has been extremely important to me on this journey of leveling the fuck up and riding the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany confronting shadows while making BOSS moves and investing in myself and trusting like crazy. Whew! So I’ve been diving into rituals on rituals on rituals and they’ve been deep since my birthday last week. I’ve been devoted to pampering myself next level to support myself through the process and anchor into my power.

Here are some of the rituals I’ve been using to anchor:

Sex Magic

Consulting with my Highest Sensual Self

Embodiment

Womb Meditation


2. Intuition:

So from the moment I saw the flyer for a women in cannabis event called Down the Rabbit Hole, where our resident Pussy Empowered DJ, Moonflower was gonna be spinning, my intuition was fully drawn to go even though my logical mind was low key in scarcity and resisting getting a ticket. I let myself work through the feeling of scarcity by proactively taking time to surrender and listen from that place of connection including on the day of….

3. Sex Magic:

I woke up and chose to start the day in abundance with a breast massage that turned into an embodiment practice that turned into a deeeep sex magic ritual using my pleasure treasure wand, and I was literally moaning the word “Caribbean” at one point. No lie.

4. Living Rapturously:

After the ritual anchoring into abundance, I was like - ummmm, of course I wanna spend the evening at a pool party being blessed by DJ Moonflower and the badass women in the realm of cannabis. That became very obviously the thread of abundance to follow.

I blasted Milkshake and No Doubt and flirted with a couple guys I’m auditioning on text and danced around and got dressed up pinup style cuz I saw there was a contest and I thought -that sounds fun, why not me? I asked my bestie which outfit he liked better and then chose the other one cuz my Pussy and ass was showing more and that is my forever mood.

5. Parade Your Power:

The event was like a DREAM. It felt like a living Barbie dream house with flowers everywhere, neon and pink. All the women were INCREDIBLE-fun, sassy, BOSSES. I was in heaven hanging with everyone, dancing and eating tacos, having deep conversations, and laughing our asses off.

When the contest came around, I was like OMG I'm too high for this and I’m not in performance mode. I just wanna be myself so I just relaxed and did my best to stay fully present and out of my head.

I was asked my inspo behind the outfit during the contest, and upon reflecting on my day leading up to the moment and week before, I said PUSSY POWER of course and flashed my leopard print thong and shook my ass and had so much fun being myself, living in the moment. I got so much love and applause and laughter from all these glowing women. I was like holy shit this is my life rn?! All these dope women showing me love for me being exactly who I am?! Flaunting my sexuality, celebrating my body, living my truth!

When I won by crowd cheers, my brain fell out of my head 🤯. This wasn’t the wink I was asking for, it was a full on orgasm delivered by the universe letting me know I am on my path and in alignment. I was calling in surrender? Well guess what, the universe delivered to me even more surrender to match the vibe I’ve been cultivating within- a whole retreat vacation to the CARIBBEAN like the word spoke out loud during my sex magic practice.

Damn. Pussy Power for the WIN.

Thank you Coral Cove Wellness Resort for this incredible gift! I cannot WAIT!


PS. All the tools I mentioned above, I also share and teach all the time! If you want a taster, consider purchasing my Pussy Empowered Ritual Bundle. If you’re ready to dive in, join us in Pussy Empowered: The Movement Membership Program where dive in with weekly virtual gatherings and there’s a membership site FULL of rituals and tools like my Sex Magic for Abundance Masterclass.


Here I am celebrating after my big win:

Conjure Your Intuitive Womb /  by alyssa aparicio

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Conjure Your Intuitive Womb

Learn to trust yourself and make decisions from the depths of your being.

The Problem

  • Overanalyzing: From a young age we are taught that logic & analysis is superior to all else, including our intuitive connection.

  • Gaslighting: Many of us have experiences where we are encouraged to mistrust what we know in our depths to be true. We learn to defer out power to others who are considered to know “better” than us including parents, teachers, and doctors.

  • Disassociation: Many of us feel deeply disconnected from our womb space due to societal perceptions of sexuality & menstruation, trauma, and shame that resides here.

  • Where’s the instruction manual? Likely, no one ever taught you just how to access and operate your intuition. And thus it remains an elusive mystery.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

  • Womb Awareness: You will develop a connection with your womb space from within which will allow you to become deeply in tune with your core.

  • Body Wisdom: You will practice connecting to and integrating intuitive wisdom in real time, not just in theory.

  • Conviction: You will learn to recognize your truth and decipher when fear, overanalyzing, or the voices of others are trying to interrupt your deeper knowing.

Ready to Conjure Your Intuitive Womb?

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Conjure Your Intuitive Womb Podcast Episode

Surrender to Being /  by alyssa aparicio

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Surrender to Being

Anchor into the present, where your true power lives in real time.

The Problem

  • Overanalyzing: From a young age we are taught that logic & analysis is superior to all else.

  • Overthinking: It’s so easy for us to get so caught up in our heads that the present simply eludes us.

  • Worth=Productivity: In a society built on capitalism, we are taught that our worth is wrapped up with how much we can accomplish. We are hooked on doing and have forgotten how to just be.

  • Past & Future Tripping: Many of us are fixated on the past or the future, but not equipped to anchor into the NOW.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

  • Sensuality: the senses are a portal to the present. Learning to ground into the senses continually brings us out of our heads and into the moment.

  • Presence: Practicing being here and now in our bodies gives us access to our ability to act, respond to our needs/desires, and ground ourselves.

  • Embracing Emotions: Instead of ignoring how we feel, we process our emotions and allow our feelings to inform us about what needs our attention internally and externally.

Ready to Surrender to Being?

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